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We often talk to young people about sex. Sometimes about drugs. Occasionally about peer pressure.

But rarely do we talk openly, intentionally, and repeatedly about relationships, how they should feel, how power shows up, and when behavior crosses the line from uncomfortable to unsafe.

That silence matters.

Dating violence doesn’t usually begin with bruises or police reports. It begins with confusion. With behaviors that feel “off” but are excused, minimized, or mislabeled as love. Control becomes care. Jealousy becomes protection. Constant monitoring becomes “just checking in.”

When these patterns go unnamed, they become normalized AND normalization is where harm takes root.

National data shows that one in three adolescents in the United States experiences some form of dating abuse, including emotional, verbal, digital, or physical harm. Yet many young people never identify what they’re experiencing as abuse. Not because they’re unaware, but because no one ever taught them what healthy dating actually looks like.

Healthy relationships are not instinctive. They are learned.

Young people need explicit language and guidance around:

• Boundaries and mutual respect
• Consent beyond a simple “yes” or “no”
• Emotional safety and autonomy
• Conflict without fear
• Accountability without control

Without this foundation, teens are left to learn about relationships through social media, entertainment, peer pressure, and silence. And silence is not neutral, it teaches acceptance.

Dating Violence Awareness & Prevention Month should be about more than recognizing harm after it happens. It should push us to focus on early education and prevention, before unhealthy dynamics become patterns, before young people internalize the idea that love requires endurance or self-sacrifice.

Teaching healthy dating does not encourage teens to date sooner. It equips them to navigate relationships more safely when they do. It helps them trust their instincts, recognize red flags earlier, and speak up without shame. It also prepares peers, parents, and educators to respond with support instead of dismissal.

At The OPAL Center Inc., we center education and early intervention because prevention works best before harm becomes normalized. When young people are given tools instead of warnings, they are far more likely to protect themselves and each other.

Dating violence is not inevitable. But prevention must be intentional.

If we want safer futures, we must start teaching healthier relationships now—clearly, consistently, and without waiting for harm to be the lesson.

Because prevention doesn’t start after violence. It starts with education.